Tuesday, August 11, 2009

APPRECIATE 'HER'

Tomorrow you may propose a working woman,

but you should marry with these facts firmly grounded in your mind........







Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as
human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that
gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements. One, who has lived and loved,
Her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who
love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name,

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you
sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day,
even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain;
to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to;
and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that
you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at
her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing
to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy,
unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply
because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like
yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows
in your entire house - Your unstinted support, Your sensitivities and most importantly - Your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many guys understand this......


Please appreciate "HER"

14 comments:

Vivek K Surendran said...

Good Post Jans.... Infact needed for all.

Anitha Bala said...

Good write up Janani..may b 'coz evry gal can easily associate herself in dose words..keep writing :)

Chindu's biography said...

Thanks Vivek n Ani.. :)

Prabhu G said...

Brilliantly Said!! I wish that all men should understand this. There is this line where you talk about school friends, I till date fear that and pray that shouldn’t happen in my life. And now that most of my friends (girls) are getting married, I wonder when I will meet them and chat like we use to. I have lost a few already and I only hope that I don’t lose them all. GOD BLESS U, and I wish you will find a man who will APPRECIATE U!!

Niveditha Shekar said...

Good post Janani.
A must read for all men.
Happy blog'ng :)

Anonymous said...

I don't know from where you got the gut feeling abut this -> "to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to;"

Now think as you've written this -> "One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that
gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements."


Who in your house did the chores while you were studying, or competing in the so called system. Do you think a servant or a mother/wife?

manu said...
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manu said...

good one:-)my wishes for u to get a man who will appreciate u n understand u :-)n above all love u to the fullest:-)

Sundar said...

update your blog i say.

Vivek K Surendran said...

Your wish will surely be true. Nice people get only nice things in life... :) :)

Sarjun said...

I remember I read the same in a forward mail. Anyways good.

Saravanan Ramaswami said...

I landed here through Thabu sankar community.

Spend close to 30 mins in your blog- meaningful words.
Go ahead - sure you will appreciated.
Will visit you again.
Saran

Anonymous said...

Signs of collective feminisim leaning forward - challenging status quo. However, the post should have instilled confidence more than pity on so called 'state' of the 'educated/independent/'woman. Very contemprory in outlook but as I said - closing should have been more realistic. After all, can appreciation make good for all that she goes through today..!!! Is that all she was struggling for???

Anonymous said...

accidently i landed your page.. hey your post is realistic... i re-posted it in my FB .. sorry i didnt; get your permission.. good job keep posting.. good luck