Tuesday, January 12, 2010


Here goes a story….
Like all other normal gals, she too had many expectations about him and was looking forward to meet him. She pampered herself both physically as well as mentally so, that she can handle the situation with a perfect touch. For past few days she faced all sorts of naughty giggles from her family and friends regarding this meet. She dressed up ready to face a new situation in life and for every few mins she kept checking herself at the mirror to make sure he faints when he looks at her for the first time. Actually, it was their first meeting in person so as to check their compatibility ratio between them. The gal’s family made all things ready to make the gal n the guy meet at the temple as planned. They were so happy to see their daughter glitter like diamond in traditional attire as they wished to see. The gal is basically quiet bubbly, lively n very merry go happy lucky gal, but she takes sum time to patch up initially. She needs a specially designed lock to make her continuous flow of words to stop. She had to glop up all energy-booster pills from office friends, family, coll friends and relatives for facing this. Though she was sure of being normal while meeting the guy, All the best calls n msgs from friends made her feel the real intense of the situation. She suddenly felt a cold wave passing thru her stomach. Omg!!! She thought for a sec,whole new family is coming just to meet her n ONLY her. All eyes on her… Gosh!
From the very same moment she became more conscious about herself. Meanwhile as planned the guy’s family too turned up with the formal welcome. The guy met the gal. She liked him at the first glance. The physical attribute category was first ticked in the checklist tat she had in her mind. Then she started pondering over other characteristic features in him tat she expected. He spoke well, calm cool. She again made note of it. But Poor gal, she failed to understand that even his checklist should all go well. She never noticed that because of her multiple tasking (Checking him, checking the dress, more conscious about her words) all her replies were very diplomatic n neither to point. She used to reply as sweet as crisp chocky. But she was totally out of way this time. The gal expected tat he will ask about their marriage, her acceptance. She prepared herself to reply with a blushing smile. But he didn’t… Tat made her lil upset. Thy ended up their long 45 mins conversation diplomatically by saying “Nice talking to u”. The moment they came back the gal’s parents who are more concerned when it comes to marriage saw their daughter’s face looking as fresh as a flower n came to conclusion tat she likes him. The gal n the guy then started talking to their respective parents. As per our societal laws, it’s the guys parents who decides about the final result… But they didn’t respond the way the gal’s family wanted…. Only then she thought about her faults… but no way she was in a position to make him understand tat u buddhu am a perfect match for u…. People may wonder y did I pen such a crap situational story. But def not, it holds so many hidden lessons inside it.
There r many amidst us who have faced such situations n missed their perfect match or who are about to face it in future.

1.Time is precious, raise up to it (She shud have become normal as soon as possible and shud have behaved as normal as possible)

2.Opportunity knocks just ones. Ones lost is lost… There is no other means to convey d guy, tat the gal is the perfect match.

3.Reply what others expect from u. unnecessary information is def not needed when she failed to know what he really wanted to know from her.

4.Always be yourself irrespective of any situations u face.

5.Never make judgments about the person within a short time.


Niveditha Shekar said...

Lovely description :)I've come across many such annecdotes.
Puts me into thinking...
How could someone select a life partner in such a short meeting?!
If this is the way it is, then everyone would try to give their best to impress the other.In simple words most of them would 'fake it' Coz rejection is most hated.
Tht's what the girl did.
Lets look at it the other way..
What if the guy liked her for her 'diplomatic and silent ways'? It would have not been any good either.
coz, he would expect her to be that way while the truth is she is not that!
Ufff...This whole idea of meeting someone and deciding immediately is complicated. It's scary too!

The five points you mentioned should be in BOLD. It definitely needs attention! :)

Sammy said...

Chindu ..good advices there.

having seen your interest in writing, consider creating a seperate blog on tamil too..
a bit contribution required from you for your mother tongue, would you? :-)


Chindu's biography said...

@Sundar : Sondha kadhai na inneram Tasmac la irunthirupen ipadi blog eludhi iruka maten.. :P anyway learn from others mistakes, tats wise rite.

@Nivi : exactly.. It scares me too.. Its difficult to accept sumone blind without knwing them. Similarly its more difficult to knw abt a person within less time tat too in an arranged marriage. Its def a tricky situation... Infact i have found no solution for this.....

@Sammy : Yeah def i wud.. i have never thought abt it.. Its sounds great.. Hope u can see a tamil blog from me soon.. :)

Avin said...

Hey nice post and i guess everyone who is in the look out for an ideal partner in the very traditional way need to read this :)
Being a guy i can see the other side of the coin.He might not have nodded affirmatively not because he didnt like the girl.I can tell you

this for sure that its not the same way that a girl and a guy feels about the marriage.So what you think might be the reason may not

really be and it applies the other way around too.
They say a lifetime is not enough to know a person.So you are never gonna know a person thoroughly before you can make a

decision.The best way i guess is to let your instincts take care of the judgement and decision and not to go for any checklists :)
The instinct will take care of that too.So next time ask the girl to play it cool and strike a conversation and not an interview kind of talk :)
I guess i ll write a blog myself on this subject ;)

Prabhu G said...

Hi Chindu,
Hope your well and enjoying this New Year!!

I have been waiting for quite sometime only to see something new on ur blog but i should say that this blog is very true and beautifully written. (its worth the time i waited)

What Avin said is true. Fallow ur instincts it will definitely lead you to what you got to have.

Like we all have a believe that there is Someone Made which is true but just done expect s/he to Prince Charming or Dream Girl.

About your lesson learnt: 1, 4 & 5 are all that u need.
For 2, U can always make opportunity but it just gets a little more difficult if its not the first meeting.

As for 3, U don't have to reply in the way the other person whats u to reply (which is very hard to guess in the first shot). Just be urself and truthful.

What every said and done. If that person is destined to be ur's, s/he will be!

:)Happy Writing!!

Anonymous said...

I really like when people are expressing their opinion and thought. So I like the way you are writing

Anonymous said...

It is useful to try everything in practice anyway and I like that here it's always possible to find something new. :)